Why Daily Affirmations Change Everything

Ever heard some horror story of affirmations that involved chanting, "I'm awesome and I love me!" Or have you heard the fad of marrying yourself? Taking your inner child on a play-date? Not that these don't work for some, but frankly, they make me want to vomit on my own shoes.

Despite my severe aversion to this weird self-talk, I decided to give it a try, because living with the evil voice in my head was not an option any longer.

Have you ever said to yourself:

You're so fat.

You're a piece of shit.

No one will ever love you.

Why can't you do anything right?

You mess up everything.

Geez, you are so messed up.

The world would be better off without you.

Yeah, me too. I used to say the most horrendous things to myself, and let me tell you, talking to yourself that way only makes things worse.

I don't care what you believe in, cosmic energy, the universe, God, spirit, whatever, you will not be able to connect with it, until you clear that gunk out of your mind. If you want to change your life, you need to change your mind.

In order to elevate yourself, you need to start by elevating the way your speak to yourself. That means taking the negative self-talk and changing the narrative.

For example changing:

failure --> opportunity to grow

problem --> challenge

fear --> curiosity

When you catch yourself saying, "Geez, you're so messed up." Stop, and say back to yourself, "No. I'm a kind, loving, person working through my stuff." Then ask yourself if you need to go apologize to someone, if no, move on. If yes, call them or speak to them now.

You have to rewire your brain to think and speak positively about yourself and your world. It has to be a constant, conscious, active decision to fully transform your mentality.

And then, you have to do the most uncomfortable thing in the world. You have to say nice things to yourself... out-loud.

Yes, it works. And yes, you have to do it.

Pick a saying that doesn't make you want to puke on your shoes and say it, over and over again.

My go to: I am a strong, confident, beautiful woman who is capable of doing anything I set my mind to.

So, when I would see myself naked and think, "Ew." I would stop myself and say, "No. I am a strong, confident, beautiful woman who is capable of doing anything I set my mind to. Including losing weight."

You have the power. You can make the change. You may feel silly saying the same sentence to yourself as you drive to work, but trust me, it works. Stay the course and speak to yourself like you would a partner or loved one.